Ben & Erin Napier Share the Biggest ‘Attention Stealer’ in Their Marriage

Ben and Erin Napier have been sweethearts since college. While dishing on the secret of their happy marriage, they revealed one pitfall that’s so relatable. The HGTV stars shared how a cell phone addiction can steal attention in a relationship.

Ben & Erin Napier Call Out 1 ‘Addictive’ Thing in Their Marriage

In a March 2025 interview with Us Weekly, the Napiers chatted about some of the things that make their marriage work. They also noted one problem that can be disruptive — cell phones.

When asked, “What are some of the things that cause conflict at home,” Ben pointed to his phone, noting, “Honestly, these are the biggest problem ever.”

He continued, “It’s addictive. It is. Either one of us will get sucked into looking at something and then it’s like, ‘Hey, I need you to pay attention right now.'”

Whether it’s asking for help getting out the door for school or one of the kids needing something, if one of them is looking at their phone, it pulls attention away from the moment.

Erin agreed, saying, “Yeah, phones are the worst.”

She added, “Those are the attention stealers, they take away. I bet phones take away from marriages more than anything else.”

Ben pointed out that having time together to watch a movie or TV show and looking at your phone gets in the way. “You’ve got to say focused and pay attention. But if we sit down and watch something and one of us is on the phone then we’re not having a movie night together,” he said.

“That’s the worst,” they both agreed.

The HGTV Stars Shared Their Marriage Secrets

Despite occasionally being distracted by their phones, the Napiers are very thoughtful about one another. Ben leaves notes for Erin every day, and she takes out the garbage since he’s got a lot on his plate. It’s the little things.

On March 19, Erin took to Instagram to share their Us Weekly cover photo and share their marriage secrets.

“We get a lot of questions about our marriage because we work together. How we get along, find family time, keep the romance alive and all that … ,” she wrote in the caption. “We did a lot of talking for this interview and we answered all those questions, but I think the best way to find happiness in your marriage is to serve one another.”

She added, “Never stop talking. Pray together. Show each other so much grace. Be on the same team. We only have 20 years of practice, and we are not experts, but it’s worked for us every time.”